In a previous article, we discussed some social media & divorce DOs. This article takes a look at things from the other end of the spectrum.
DON’T rely on your privacy settings to shield you.
Changing your account to private typically doesn’t prevent a judge from creating an order to review your accounts, email, or texts if there is reports of harassment, lying, or bragging by the other party. As such, it is imperative that you always think before you post or send a message to anyone- you never know who is going to screenshot and send it to your ex (and you will be surprised as to who would).
DON’T add any new friends on any social media sites unless you are positive you know and can trust them.
It takes about 5 minutes to create a fake account and most people accept followers they don’t know because they don’t care who can see their profile. This should not be the case for people going through a divorce.
DON’T send emails, texts, write posts, or any written statements regarding your case to anyone except your lawyers.
If you really can’t resist gossiping with your friends, try not to disclose anything that you would regret being presented as evidence in front of a judge. This is a good general rule for all social media in general. And if you think you might be safe to discuss the case in an online chat room, message board, or blog- you’re not. This also goes for your closest friends and family- ask them to refrain from disparaging your soon to be ex, as this could negatively impact you in court.
DON’T post personal updates.
Keep your thoughts to yourself for the remainder of the divorce proceeding. If you need to talk to your friends, do it in person. Do not post negative updates, thoughts, or insults, as these ill certainly be used against you once you’re in front of a judge. Also refrain from showcasing a new relationship or joining a dating cite.
DON’T rage text your ex, or better yet, don’t communicate about your relationship or the case at all.
If it’s necessary to communicate with your ex about your kids, keep all communication BIFF- brief, informative, friendly, and focused. Anything and everything you send to them can be put into evidence.
DON’T try to spy on your soon to be ex.
Apps like Instagram, SnapChat, and LinkedIn show who have viewed your profile. Leave the private investigating for your attorney.